Believe that your partner is supposed to know how to satisfy you? Act passive when you’re not getting what you want and then complain afterwards? Wait for that magical moment when something outside of yourself will sweep you away? Tantrateachesthat whether you’re female or male, you’re 100% totally responsible for your turn-on and your own orgasms. By this we don’t mean that all good lovin’ is self-lovin’. We mean that great sex is a partnership in which it takes two to tango. Therearestilltoomanymenwhothink they’re failures if their women don’t orgasm. There are too many women who don’t have a clue what will make them feel the ultimate in sexual pleasure. Some even pressure their lover to have an orgasm to soothe their own egos. Maybe each of you has a ways to go to learn about your subtle orgasmic triggers and keys to sacred ecstasy. Regardless, the more you talk with your partner about what you want, the quicker you’ll both learn what you can do to get it.   EXERCISE: Communication Discussion Questions Here are some statements to complete by reflecting, journalling, or talking… I feel these sexual needs are understood and appreciated… I want my beloved to better understand… I feel shy or embarrassed talking about…   Our Job In essence, that’s what this ebook is all about. We don’t just want you to read it. We want you to study, communicate, and practice. All the wonderful, delicious, juicy stuff we’re suggesting is for you and your beloved partner to experiment with. You’vesetoutonanexcitingexplorer’sprogram. Remember, your mindset will determine how much you discover about the staggering ecstasy that’s lurking inside. Keep an open mind. Act like kids playing doctor. Drop your expectations and cynicisms. Treat every experience as fresh and new. Only if you get out of your own way can you let the dormant energy deep within transport you to new and unexpected places. So practice, practice, practice. We know some of this stuff is new and seems weird at first. If you try it, we think you’ll like it. Either way, we won’t tell on you. And don’t just do the exercises once. Practice may not make you perfect, but it does get better and better. Every time you do it, you’ll learn something new. We guarantee it.   Communicate, Communicate, Communicate As a marriage counselor for many many years, Jeffre has learned that the single biggest reason women get turned off to sex (after religion) is their fear of telling their men the truth about their sexual responses, desires, and wants. If you want to deepen and supercharge your sex life, communication must begin at the beginning. That’s where the following practice, How To Touch Me, picks up — at the beginning. Going deeper with communication throughout your loveplay helps tremendously to create intimacy as well. When receiving, women need to explain what they desire, what they feel, and